By Clark Soloman @ www.mybrotha.com
"But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of every woman is man, and the head of Christ is God." - I Corinthians 11:3
Some men misinterpret this and use it to take advantage of their wives. These men are distorting God's guidance in order to maintain some type of control over their wives and their households. But as Dr. Price points out -- only Christian men who are responsible and able to fulfill their spiritual duties can be "head of the house." If a man does not live as an example and is not spiritually guided, he cannot be in a lead position.
In no way, shape or form should a woman ever submit to a man who doesn't walk by Faith. No man, Christian or not -- has the power to force a woman to submit to him. Furthermore, submitting to a man should never involve control and manipulatio. Both the husband and wife should be submitting to each other.
"When Paul said a husband ranked over his wife, he meant that a husband is responsible for his wife. God is holding us husbands responsible for our wives. We are responsible for loving them, taking care of them, providing for them, and protecting them in the domestic environment," Price says.
It is important for men and women to remember that a husband does not come between his wife and God. A husband is not the spiritual head of his wife and he has no authority over her spirituality. The purpose of rank in the family, is to define responsibilities of man, woman, and child -- not to assert command or power over them.
SOME LADIES HAVE A PROBLEM WHEN IT COMES TO THE WORD: SUBMISSION. WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS? I THINK BECAUSE SINGLE BLACK WOMEN HAVE BEEN KEEPING IT TOGETHER FOR SO LONG BY THEMSELVES, THEY CAN'T RELEASE THAT RESPONSIBLITY AND LET THEIR EQUALLY YOKED MAN BE RESPONSIBLE. I AIN'T GOT THAT PROBLEM, BUT WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS???
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For me...I relish the day when I have a man that is strong enough and responsible enough that I feel comfortable relinquishing much control and allowing him to be the man he is meant to be.
I believe the man should be the head of the house. That's one of the ways a man feels his worth and I see no problem with that.
Hell, my problem is I can't find a man whose man enough to be the man. LOL. I would LOVE to be able to submit to a man...DOMINATE ME (whip me...spank me...oh TMI?...hehehe)
The way I heard it, from an anointed preacher was that the MAN doesn't get to say WHAT constitutes SUBMISSION. If I don't do every single solitary thing you say, eat what you want me to eat, wear the deodorant you want me to wear, comb my hair to the back with a part on the side, I mean it can go on forever and any one thing that "she" doesn't do can constitute lack of submission. Some say if she doesn't do it quick enough she's not submissive, some say if she doesn't do it with a smile, it wasn't willful submission. We need to let God process us both (men and women) and stop thinking that submission means doormat or that when we are submissive we relinquish our minds in the process.
Your guy has some points...most of which he credits Fred Price with, but I don't think he captures the full spirit of what the scripture is saying. It's not about control, it's about role and leadership. It is God that determines the definition for both. It is Christ that provides the example for both. If men AND women would line themselves up with God first, then we both would willingly submit to his WHOLE counsel and then there would be no controversy. Sadly, as in most things even remotely associated with godliness, so many of us fall short of the mark and lapse into reliance on our own thoughts about the way things should be and our own excuses for not doing what we should do.
Prov 3:5,6 holds the key.
Prov 14:25 shows the consequence.
Good post.
GREAT POST LADY.
I used to have a problem with submission; was NEVER going to be controled by a man...under his will. I was going to do thing MY way...well the Bible is an AMAZING thing, the virues of a Woman as set by God are to be JUST what I wasn't going to do. The PROBLEM is TOO many women submit to the WRONG man, because if he's a KING...it's an honor to be his QUEEN, but you've got QUEENS running after JESTERS and thinking it's ok.
I only WISH I had an idea of what I have FINALLY learned that SUBmission MEANS:
When a MAN has a MISSION & he's following/submitting to our Creator then I (his woman) will WILLINGLY be by his side because my SUBmission is to support his MISSION, carry on the family AND follow The Creator's calling for ME - which will work hand in hand with My Man's calling/mission. Hope that made sense;-). This is why I believe so strongly in SoulMates, now.
I continue to pray that I'm not understanding this TOO late...
Yuck! That is what the word does to me. Yes, it is my flesh rebelling. LOL. I truthfully don't desire marriage in my heart. When I hear other women swoon over the possibility of marriage I don't feel any of their passion.
I think the focus is too much on the woman submitting. I watched a video of a relative getting married. The tone of the place changed when the minister came down on the bride, "Saying do you understand what obey means." He took several minutes to explain it and was she really ready to do it. I was like shouldn't that have been done during premarital counseling. I mean he put her on the spot and embarassed her.
Submit not to the eartly being of a man that you see in front of you, but to the Godly man that is within him.
wOW, I'M WITH DT,KIKI AND CAP ON THIS ONE!
I am a Christian who is engaged to be married but still have internal conflicts with this issue. I honestly believe that both the woman and the man will sometimes be the head of the household and will in turn both be submissive to each other. The biblical environment is very different from today's environment so I think sometimes this verse is misinterpreted. I believe in today's world both the man and the woman should be equal whereas then, the woman was literally under the man. I have no problem being led by my man - but at the same time there are times when I may lead him. I am really struggling with it because my fiance is threatened by my views and he's a wonderful man who I hope I don't lose with my more liberal view points.
I am a happily married submitted women. I revere my husband and honor him by submitting to him. I married a man who has given his life to the Lord. And because I trust God I trust the man that I accepted as my husband. Does that mean that I agree with everything that he says? No. But what I do agree is that he is the head (final say) in our home.
It may turn out later that I was right and that he was wrong in some decisions, but I don't focus on that. What I do focus on is God's promises to me. I think you have to be able to trust God and really have a man who is consistantly trying to follow what he believes God wants for the family.
I firmly agree with you Sheletha. I have post which I just pu ton my blog that reads alot of the same. It is sad for men (myself included) that there is simply not enough men of God outthere that women trust enough to submitt to. Men have taken the word submission and turned it into slavery. Men who desire to control women and use them for their own game (which is alot of us) have made it wrong to be submissive. Thank you for blogging a post that helps to clear up what real men should be like. I pray that one day we (men) will live a holy life so that women can be learn how great it is to be submissive. To all you female readers I do apologize for the treatment and lack of leadership we have shown. I pray that you can all find a man of God who is the type of leader you can submitt to and pray that era corruption we have caused to women stops. Pray for us men to be men you want to be submissive to.
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